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Do You Hate Small Talk?

[Image: Nametag that reads I hate this!]

Can you relate to this networking event nametag?

That dread of so-called “small talk” is a classic concern of introverts. It might be the crux of why we are sometimes seen as anti-social.

If we’re going to stop dreading certain social situations (networking events, holiday parties…), we have to deal with our dread of small talk.

Common worries I’ve heard from introverts:

  • “People think I’m a snob just because I’m not interested in the conversation.”
  • “I’m not shy and I am friendly, but I don’t like small talk about nothing.”

The small talk concern is one of those hot button issues for introverts. I’ve noticed that just saying the phrase “small talk” leads to instant groans and rolling their eyes.

I’m an introvert who used to hate small talk too, so I can smile with recognition when introverts groan about it. But now it feels totally fine. And I didn’t change who I am.

I have some easy solutions here.

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Are You Rushing Around Like a Squirrel?

Feeling squirrely this time of year? Racing after nuts before winter?

Feeling squirrely this time of year? Racing after nuts before winter? (Photo by David Johnson, click for his site.)

This seems to be the start of many conversations I’m having in late August…
“Maybe it’s the change of seasons, but I am… off/ spinning/ questioning everything/ feeling squirrely/ jittery… [fill in your own words].”

I am feeling it. Are you? I started looking at my calendar for September and I could get overwhelmed if I’m not careful. I’ll be speaking at two new places in September, and launching 3 programs in September and October. As I look at it, I get jumpy and start rethinking these plans that seemed so logical a few months ago.

Is it just the season change jitters, or do I need to question the amount of commitments? Because I’m so determined to maintain balance, I am stopping to consider whether my schedule really feels good to me and reflects the kind of life I truly want. (You can borrow my list of self-assessment questions, shown below.)

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Self-employment Ideas for Introverts

Is this you?

  1. You realize you lean towards introversion and that’s an OK thing!
  2. You’re thinking maybe you just need to find the right path that fits your introverted style. No more extrovert mask to fit in!
  3. And you think self-employment might give you the freedom to create work the way you want it. (Yes!)
  4. But, you’re nervous about what self-employment avenues will work for you as an introvert. (“Ack, and what about marketing?!”)

Sound familiar? You’re not alone. That self-employment excitement combined with worry is common for introverts. And yet there are plenty of introverts making it work!

I love the freedom of self-employment, and it’s working for me in my own introverted way. But I was nervous to take the leap because some part of me thought that was extrovert territory. Both introverts and extroverts can make it work, if you find your unique path.

In this post, I’ll explain why and how self-employment can work well for introverts, including a few specific ideas for you. 

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10 Most Popular Posts on My Blog

These 10 posts on my blog have been the “greatest hits.” I put a lot of my heart and insights into these.

These posts cover my usual range of topics so they give you a good sense of what I’m about: introverts, self-employment, marketing, confidence, fear, and leaps of faith.

  1. Being Introverted Is a GOOD Thing!
  2. The Introvert’s Path from Pain to Confidence
  3. You Are Closer Than You Think
  4. Your “Worst” Trait Could Be Your Superpower
  5. The Self-Employment Leap of Faith
  6. When Something Feels Too Big for You, Say Yes
  7. Tackling My Fears, One Layer at a Time
  8. Networking Secrets from an Ex-Wallflower
  9. Why You Get Tongue-Tied When Describing Your Work
  10. 1 Easy Step for Getting New Clients Now

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4 Tips to Break the Overthinking Loop

[Image: The classic cat in the doorway indecision =  Analysis Paralysis.]

The classic cat in the doorway indecision = Analysis Paralysis.

Can you relate to getting stuck in overthinking, rethinking, and… thinking again, until you’re getting less clear?! I call it Analysis Paralysis.

I was part of a discussion online about the overthinking loop, and my friend, Alison, offered these fantastic tips. These tips are tried-and-true and easy-to-do. (There’s brain research to back this up.)

Since introverts tend to be especially prone to the challenge of overthinking, I knew I had to get her tips out to you too. I invited her to write a guest post, and here it is!

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