People seem to know me as that woman who leads networking workshops especially for introverts and anyone struggling with networking. It’s true, I keep leading a workshop called Networking Secrets from an Ex-Wallflower™.
I’m leading one next week in Amherst, MA — free to the public thanks to the Amherst Area Chamber of Commerce. I led one last week at Univ. of Connecticut, and I have more to come (including online). I’m also forming a Networking Momentum Group in Northampton to provide in-depth support and accountability for moving forward.
My behind-the-scenes story is that I really was a wallflower for a long time. In fact, I was that painfully shy, practically invisible kid all the way through school. For example, even though I was obsessed with making good grades, if I had to do an oral report, I would beg the teacher to give me an “F” instead of making me talk in front of the class. I can feel the queasiness just thinking about how it felt back then.
In college, I gradually came out of my shell thanks to tapping into my passions (ya know, changing the world kinda stuff). And that was the beginning of a long transition. (Wish I had had a coach back then so it would have been a shorter journey.)
I got better at public speaking by throwing myself into being a health educator after college, so that was a big step forward. Passion for wellness got me through it. It became easy and fun.
But you can see in this photo (right) from age 24 that I still carried the weight of shyness in my posture and my hesitant smile. I had more work to do.
Finally Cracked the Code for Networking
It still took years before I could find ease with things like networking and self-promotion. I avoided self-employment because of it, despite my entrepreneurial ideas dying to get out. And now, years later, I am self-employed, loving it, and I love the networking part.
I don’t just tolerate networking; I found out it can be fun! It’s supposed to be fun! As I like to say, networking is just a fancy word for making friends. Shouldn’t that be fun?! That perspective is one of the keys I bring to my workshop.
I actually studied how I made this transition and I love spreading the word about the steps, because, what a RELIEF! It doesn’t have to be so hard. I promise.
Turns out I found a way to boil down the solution to networking into a workshop. People that attend are getting it and feeling the shift. Some go on to get coaching for more ways of finding their voice, and I love seeing them expand on that process. I can’t tell you how gratifying this journey is for me.
So you can see why I keep leading the workshop and helping anyone who wants to find their voice. I feel so grateful. Thank you Universe!! Thank you to all my workshop attendees and clients who allow me to live my calling.
My Journey in a Nutshell
I learned to stretch over time, gradually building muscles and widening my comfort zone.
By the way, yes, I have seen the new book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, by Susan Cain, and I highly recommend it. It has great research and stories about introverts, how we are misunderstood, and why our approach is valuable.
I’m grateful there’s an introvert revolution going on. (Have you seen all those introvert articles lately?)
Maybe schools and workplaces can learn how to embrace and be inclusive of all styles with the help of a book like Quiet. Get inspired by watching Cain’s powerful TED talk here. (Here’s proof that introverts make awesome public speakers.)