Life, including work, should not feel like swimming upstream. There’s a way out. The black swan has been my role model for escaping the upstream feeling. No more selling your soul to be successful.
I saw a pair of black swans one day, and I was so struck by the unexpected color. They had such an impact on me, even though they were doing nothing but sitting there quietly.
I realized the black swan
has a message for us:
We need to stop trying to fit in with the white swans and just be our unique “black swan” selves in order to have the real impact we are craving. And we don’t need to make a lot of noise to be noticed. Uniqueness is enough.
Where are you trying to fit in and hide your uniqueness?
→ Acting extroverted when you’re not?
→ Towing the line at work?
→ Hiding your emotions?
→ Saying yes when you mean no?
It’s probably not helping you, and it might be hurting you.
Your unique self is the answer.
But wait… if you’re used to hiding parts of yourself to fit in, it can be very scary to take off that mask, at first. Especially for introverts who might dread visibility. It could sound like this in your head: “But they won’t think I’m nice anymore.” or “Yikes, exposure as a freak!” or “But then I won’t make enough money.”
And what if you can’t see your unique gifts that the world needs?
I recommend getting some help to see your gifts and find out how to deal with the fear that will arise. One of the gifts I’ve discovered in myself is that I can see the unique gifts in you, even when you can’t see it. We should talk.
In reality, bringing your unique self to the world gets easier, and it often means getting help for the transition. It pays off — you’ll find all these treasures when you go for it:
- You can relax as you focus on your natural talents instead of some “shoulds.” (More YOU)
- You find the breathing room and work/life balance you’re craving. (More EASE)
- You easily find your kindred spirits who love what you’re about and want to support it. (More IMPACT in the world.)
My Black Swan Formula for Success:
More YOU = More EASE = More IMPACT
What Does This Mean for YOU?
Sounds good but…
What about this crazy world?
What about the dread of putting yourself out there?
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A Note for Introverts
I’m not saying you have to jump into the limelight to be successful. Remember, it was a silent swan that caught my full attention. Introverts can command our attention simply by being themselves, even in a quiet way.
No need to put on an extrovert mask to fit in or be successful. Being authentically YOU is everything you need — even for networking and social events.
I was once a wallflower, but I also craved having a voice. I found my way out of the “shy girl” shell by tapping into my unique passions and my natural strengths. I’m still an introvert and now I know how to be heard when I want to. And rest when I need to. I didn’t have to become someone else!
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