I hear people all the time stopping themselves from wanting what they want because they think it’s impossible or think it will be too big of a leap for them.
In essence, they are thinking the devil they know is better than the one they don’t know. Think about that. The logic is flawed. It’s just that you don’t know yet.
That idea to stay with the “devil you know” comes from an inner fear voice that wants to stop you from trying anything new. It thinks it is keeping you safe. But it is just keeping you small… and unsatisfied.
Wavering between what you want and what you’re afraid to check out is a place we could stay stuck forever if we don’t take some conscious action.
It’s like that funny thing cats do when they cry to go outside, but when you open the door to let them out, they freeze in the doorway, wondering whether to stay or go. We laugh at them, or even get frustrated at them for not getting going on what they said they wanted. But isn’t it just like us when we stop ourselves from checking out what’s out there?
I know I’ve done that. Yes, no, maybe, but yes, but no…. on and on. It’s classic human stuff, not just cat stuff.
How do we get out of that doorway when the unknown feels so daunting?
I’ll explain what I’ve discovered, and what many others have discovered, about how to move past the doorway, even when it feels scary.
The answer is in exploring instead of leaping. What looks like a cliff right now is actually a place to look around for the easy pathway. The pathway is there if you look for it and get creative.
Example of Turning the Impossible into Possible
For example, instead of taking a big step, like thinking you should sign up for a new college degree, take a small step like asking a few friends if they know someone in that field who you could interview. Or if that’s too big at first, start with researching the field online. There’s always a small bite you can manage.
It sounds so simple when you hear this, I bet, but for some reason it’s not what we tend to do. We beat ourselves up for not figuring things out or not taking big leaps, but what works is to take small steps, which we can do.
As you take each little step, notice how your heart feels as you take each step and follow what it is drawn to next. It will lead you in the right direction of what your heart and body are longing for. And each step is only one small doable step.
If you hit a “dead end,” it’s just a place to turn. There are no dead ends.
I explain this approach in more depth, of how to move forward even if you’re afraid of getting overwhelmed, with a video. I bet you’ll feel more relaxed after you watch it.
If you don’t know what you want at all, you might want to start here instead:
What If You Don’t Know What You Want?