Can you relate to this networking event nametag?
That dread of so-called “small talk” is a classic concern of introverts. It might be the crux of why we are sometimes seen as anti-social.
If we want to find more ease in certain social situations (networking events, holiday parties…), we have to deal with our dread of small talk.
Common worries I’ve heard from introverts:
- “People think I’m a snob just because I’m not interested in the conversation.”
- “I’m not shy and I am friendly, but I don’t like small talk about nothing.”
The small talk concern is one of those hot button issues for introverts. I’ve noticed that just saying the phrase “small talk” leads to instant groans and rolling their eyes.
I’m an introvert who used to hate small talk too, so I can smile with recognition when introverts groan about it. But now it feels fine, well, most of the time. And I didn’t change who I am.
I have some easy solutions here for you.
I’ve been noticing something at networking events and I’ve got to comment, at the risk of offending someone.
People who think they are GOOD at networking often are NOT. On the flip side, people who think they are BAD at it, are doing better than they think!!
Please rethink what you’re doing.
This Really Happened to Me.
Recently I was approached at an event by a woman who is clearly excited about her new business. She walked up, started talking, handed me lots of promo material, took my card, and then walked away. I was stunned. I watched her “work” the room like that. Then she called me later asking to meet up. Uh, not sure I want to return that call. Would you?
Maybe I should call her back and offer her a little free advice, or better yet, some marketing coaching. Hmm. Continue reading